like treat the characters like real people, represent them better, their struggles being a sexual minority, etc. bqy

E.g: Ao no Flag, Koimonogatari, I Hear the Sunspot, Here U Are, Doukyuusei, Given

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Actually a lot of older shounen-ai (pre-2005) are realistic and very mild. Same goes for older yaoi. 🙂

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Wow! Tysm!! 😀

I’m pretty sure it’s yaoi, but Dear Green is still probably the most realistic gay manga I've read 100% recommend!

This doesn't contain homophobia, but the characters are written "seriously" and there's not the typical top/bottom dynamic you see in most yaoi:

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